I don't really follow some of the stuff that's going on in your Sims' saga Cass, but I probably wouldn't get it all even if it were explained.
And for the record, I often like real-life annoying little kids, lol.
As for Sims that are very "huggy": when I first made my Self-Sim I made her more outgoing and funloving but after observing her behavior for a while I brought some of the values down to make her more realistic. I don't go around trying to hug every person I meet in real life (although I've certainly known people who do) - and I'm Italian.
But originally my Self-Sim was like that. That's why the Beetlejuice in my game hates Sim-Sparky now, because she tried to hug him and it freaked him out. She probably loved his suit.
