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Originally Posted by Mr. Marshmallow
(Post 59651)
I've got something that ticks me off but before I say it, I got to explain a few things first. There's a girl that goes to my college who is my friend, I've known her for a while now and anyway we got into this discussion and I mentioned I was lonely and looking for a GF and she told me as a friend what was wrong with me.
Like why I haven't gotten a girlfriend yet, and she said its my clothes, the fact I wear cartoon shirts and that I don't go to bars. She says I need to "live a little" by drinking at bars. And frankly this down right pissed me off. She believes that no one is going to approach me (girls anyway) because I wear shirts like Ghostbusters and Transformers.
I'm sorry but I personally cannot fathom why I have to hide what I like just to impress a girl and not just any girl, a BAR girl. People who drown themselves in alcohol to have fun sounds like a bad idea in the making. I don't see why I have to guzzle booze and dress like someone I am not just to fit into some girl's social acceptance handbook.
Am I insane for thinking it's NOT okay to go off having sex with someone just for the sake of it, and not actually wanting some important moral values with it? Am I insane for being proud to wear shirts that advocate what I like and enjoy to do in my spare time? What the hell kind of view of society is that?
If some girl will not approach me because I wear a Ghostbusters shirt then what's the point in even meeting that person if they have to judge me like that? Furthermore, say I don't wear the shirt, I meet a girl and then I start wearing Ghostbusters. Is that considered okay? I don't see how it should matter.
If a person can't accept what I like simply by looking at me then why should I spend my time and money going to bars and sucking down beer bottles just to meet someone? I know first hand how painful the feeling of loneliness can be but the more I thought about this today, the more I realized that it is just not worth it.
It is not worth meeting someone who has to change what you wear and what you like to accept you in public, I'd rather be alone and proud of who I chose to be then be who society chooses me to be. I don't believe America is set this way, I believe if a single person of good nature can exist then so can another.
I'm not someone who's going to stroll around wearing bland shirts that state my school's name and be ordinary. I like the fact I wear shirts of things I like, I am happy and proud to wear them because I am happy of who I am. I spent my whole childhood not wearing what i liked out of fear of being mocked by kids.
I'm not gonna do that again. As rare as they are, there are people who accept others for who they are and don't think you are "unapproachable" because of what you choose to wear. That person today is still my friend but now I look at her differently sorry to say, like one of those "you think you know someone" things.
I have values about sex and drinking and I just can't bring myself to sinking into a lifestyle that revolves around the two just so I can find a girl. I refuse to believe that is the only means of social and romantic acceptance in this nation. Maybe that's why I find toon girls to be attractive to consider them to be better "people" at times.
It may seem weird and even pathetic but I feel better about my own identity having those drawn feelings to toons then to degrade myself into a life of caring only about sex and having to drink something that never appealed or interested me. I don't believe the world is that shallow or that devoid of any kind of depth.
People CAN be devoid of depth and be that shallow but not all of humanity, and its my faith in humanity that gives me faith in myself and I feel so much better having that faith about myself then wanting to be someone I am not.
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I've gotta disagree with your friend there. I can't speak for anyone else (and neither should she, really...), but I can say that I don't judge people on what they wear.
I like guys who are able to at least be honest and are comfortable with wearing whatever they choose. I know plenty of guys older then you who I've seen where cartoon shirts, for examples, my co-workers are mostly male, and a few of them are over 25 years old, and I've seen them wear Disney shirts, Naruto shirts, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle shirts, etc.
There is nothing wrong with wearing those kinds of shirts, and if someone were to judge me based on that tiny aspect, then I wouldn't want to date them anyways.
As for bars, a lot of my friends drink, and invite me along (despite me being 20), and I've always declined. I prefer not to drink, and I'd prefer to have a guy who isn't looking to go out and bar hop each night.
So yea, I guess what I am trying to say is that I wouldn't turn down a possible boyfriend based on the clothing he wears, especially cartoon shirts, since I've found most guys who wear shirts featuring cartoons, etc, usually have a similar personality to myself, and we usually hit it off right away.
Besides, I wear shirts that have cartoon characters on them too. However, about the sex thing, I won't go into too much detail, but like you, I also value my morals with that, and have vowed since I first learned about sex to not have it until I was married, and thus I still am a virgin =)
So no, you're not insane, not at all =)
And this is all coming from a 20 year old female =)
Though I do hope I didn't say anything insulting, because that wasn't my intent at all D: I'm just speaking my mind =P